Category Archives: THINGS IN PERSPECTIVE

When Is The Best Time To Do Something ?

This has really nothing to do with real estate but I thought it was something worth while in sharing and it is a way of life to strive for although I know it is always easier said than done,  enjoy.  Hopefully you will get something out of this short reading.

We convince ourselves that life 
will be better after we get married, 
have a baby, then another. 
Then we are frustrated that the kids aren’t old enough 
and we’ll be more content when they are.

After that we’re frustrated that we 
have teenagers to deal with, 
we will certainly be happy 
when they are out of that stage.

We tell ourselves that our life will be complete 
when our spouse gets his or her act together, 
when we get a nicer car, 
are able to go on a nice vacation, 
when we retire. 
The truth is there’s no better time 
to be happy than right now. 
If not now, when?

Your life will always be filled with challenges. 
It’s best to admit this to yourself 
and decide to be happy anyway. 
One of my favorite quotes comes 
from Alfred D Souza.

He said, “For a long time it had seemed 
to me that life was about to begin -real life. 
But there was always some obstacle in the way, 
something to be gotten through first, 
some unfinished business, 
time still to be served, 
a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. 
At last it dawned on me that these 
obstacles were my life.”

 

This perspective has helped me to see 
that there is no way to happiness. 
Happiness is the way, 
so, treasure every moment that you have. 
And treasure it more because you shared it 
with someone special, 
special enough to spend your time… 
and remember that time waits for no one.

So stop waiting until you finish school, 
until you go back to school, 
until you lose ten pounds, 
until you gain ten pounds, 
until you have kids, 
until your kids leave the house, 
until you start work, 
until you retire, 
until you get married, 
until you get divorced, 
until Friday night, 
until Sunday morning, 
until you get a new car or home, 
until your car or home is paid off, 
until spring, until summer, 
until fall, until winter, 
until you are off welfare, 
until the first or fifteenth, 
until your song comes on, 
until you’ve had a drink, 
until you’ve sobered up, 
until you die, until you are born again 
to decide that there is no better time 
than right now to be happy… 
Happiness is a journey, not a destination.

So, work like you don’t need money. 
Love like you’ve never been hurt and 
dance like no one’s watching.

Author: Unknown

 

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Story On Dealing With Difficult People

This is one of those cute stories that comes from all over the net and I just had to share with some pics of a baby porcupine and seems to be perfect with not only networking with other professionals but just getting along with people difficult or otherwise.

Fable of the Porcupine


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I t was the coldest winter ever. Many animals died because of the cold.  The porcupines, realizing the situation, decided to group together.  This way, they covered and protected themselves; but, the quills of each one wounded their closest companions

even though they gave off heat to each other.


After awhile, they decided to distance themselves one from the other and they began to die, alone and frozen.

So they had to make a choice: either accept the quills of their companions or disappear from the earth.

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Wisely, they decided to go back to being together.  This way they learned to live with the little wounds that were caused by the close relationship with their companion, but the most important part of it, was the heat that came from the others. This way they were able to survive.

Therefore:

The best relationship is not the one that brings together perfect people, but the best is when each individual learns to live with the imperfections of others and can admire the other person’s good qualities.


The Moral of the story!

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LEARN TO LOVE THE PRICKS IN YOUR LIFE.

 


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Being Grateful For A New Year

I know that this article was written for Thanks giving but with the year ending and a new year beginning I think it still fits in having that mentality of being grateful for what we have.  It has been a very difficult year for many families and America is still struggling to get back on its feet, I hope you enjoy this article as much as I did written by Jim Rohn.

jim rohnYou may be wondering why I would call this article “A Thankful Thanksgiving.” Aren’t all Thanksgivings thankful? Unfortunately, no. As a person who has experienced over 75 Thanksgivings, I recognize that being thankful is something that we have to work at, even on Thanksgiving.

If your home is like most, your Thanksgiving Day will be very busy, with either traveling to where you want to go or preparing your home to have others over for the day. Either way, that can be very hectic and emotionally trying, which doesn’t lend itself to preparing your heart to be reflective and thankful. In fact, Thanksgiving weekend is the most traveled weekend in America. Airports are full, and not always providing much room for contemplation of your good fortune.

This means all the more that if we want to be the kind of people who are characterized by thankfulness, then we must make sure that we focus on it, and not just on Thanksgiving Day, but at all times during the year.

Here are a few key words as well as some thoughts that are simple and practical to apply; something you can use right away in your quest for becoming more thankful:

Time. Set aside time regularly to be quiet, to reflect. We live in the fastest-paced time ever. From the moment we awake to the moment we collapse into bed, we have the opportunity to go at full speed and never slow down. If we schedule time every day in which we can be quiet and reflect, we will free our hearts and minds up from the tyranny of the urgent and rushed.

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Thought. Give thought to the many blessings that you have. Living in a consumer culture, most of us are fully aware of what we do not have and how we absolutely must have “it.” But how often do we reflect upon that which we already have? Take some time each day and think of one or two things that you have that you may typically take for granted and then take a moment and give thanks for those. In fact, I make it a part of my reflection time to review a list of things that I’m thankful for.

Generosity. Be generous toward those with less and not envious of those with more. We tend to look at others who may be wealthier than ourselves and think, “I sure wish I had what he does.” That kind of thinking breeds envy and jealousy rather than contentment. What can we do to break that cycle? I would suggest being generous to those who are less fortunate than yourself. Go to work at a food bank. And not just during the holidays—everybody works there then—but on a regular basis during the year. That will remind you of how good you really have it.mission

Ask. Ask a friend what they are thankful for. The next time you are at lunch with a friend, ask him or her what they are most thankful for. You will be amazed at the answers you receive, and you will create a meaningful bond with your friends as you focus on this powerful question.

Acknowledge. Lastly, tell those you love how thankful you are for having them in your life. So many times we neglect to take the time to craft the words to express to those closest to us what their presence in our lives means to us. Take the opportunity of Thanksgiving Day to write them a note or sometime during the day put your hand on their shoulder, look them in the eyes and tell them. Let them know what they mean to you, and in return you’ll begin to create the possibility of deeper, richer, more fulfilling relationships with those you love.

Of course, we should do what we can to make the most of the day we call Thanksgiving, but wouldn’t it be a shame if the only time we reflected on our blessings was that one Thursday in November? And the answer is, of course! So let’s do our best to be aware of the many great gifts that we have each and every day of the year. As we do so we will feel our hearts soar and our minds will experience more and more peace as we regularly remember and remain aware of our good fortune.

Happy Thanksgiving!

By: Jim Rohn

To read more writings from Jim Rohn please visit www.JimRohn.com

I hoped you enjoyed the reading and have or had a Merry X-Mas and here is to great and Happy New Years!!!

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Rewards Of Disciplines

If you can make it to the later half of this I think you will have gotten a really worth while message.

Reaping a Multiple Reward by Jim Rohn

imagineFor every disciplined effort, there are multiple rewards. That’s one of life’s great arrangements. In fact, it’s an extension of the biblical law that says that if you sow well, you will reap well.

Here’s a unique part of the Law of Sowing and Reaping. Not only does it suggest that we’ll all reap what we’ve sown, it also suggests that we’ll reap much more. Life is full of laws that both govern and explain behaviors, but this may well be the major law we need to understand: For every disciplined effort, there are multiple rewards.

What a concept! If you render unique service, your reward will be multiplied. If you’re fair and honest and patient with others, your reward will be multiplied. If you give more than you expect to receive, your reward is more than you expect. But remember: the key word here, as you might well imagine, is discipline.

Everything of value requires care, attention, and discipline. Our thoughts require discipline. We must consistently determine our inner boundaries and our codes of conduct, or our thoughts will be confused. And if our thoughts are confused, we will become hopelessly lost in the maze of life. Confused thoughts produce confused results.

Remember the law: “For every disciplined effort, there are multiple rewards.” Learn the discipline of writing a card or a letter to a friend. Learn the discipline of paying your bills on time, arriving to appointments on time, or using your time more effectively. Learn the discipline of paying attention, or paying your taxes or paying yourself. Learn the discipline of having regular meetings with your associates, or your spouse, or your child, or your parent. Learn the discipline of learning all you can learn, of teaching all you can teach, of reading all you can read.

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For each discipline, multiple rewards. For each book, new knowledge. For each success, new ambition. For each challenge, new understanding. For each failure, new determination. Life is like that. Even the bad experiences of life provide their own special contribution. But a word of caution here for those who neglect the need for care and attention to life’s disciplines: Everything has its price. Everything affects everything else. Neglect discipline, and there will be a price to pay. All things of value can be taken for granted with the passing of time.

That’s what we call the Law of Familiarity. Without the discipline of paying constant, daily attention, we take things for granted. Be serious. Life’s not a practice session.

If you’re often inclined to toss your clothes onto the chair rather than hanging them in the closet, be careful. It could suggest a lack of discipline. And remember, a lack of discipline in the small areas of life can cost you heavily in the more important areas of life. You cannot clean up your company until you learn the discipline of cleaning your own garage. You cannot be impatient with your children and be patient with your distributors or your employees. You cannot inspire others to sell more when that goal is inconsistent with your own conduct. You cannot admonish others to read good books when you don’t have a library card.

Think about your life at this moment. What areas need attention right now? Perhaps you’ve had a disagreement with someone you love or someone who loves you, and your anger won’t allow you to speak to that person. Wouldn’t this be an ideal time to examine your need for a new discipline? Perhaps you’re on the brink of giving up, or starting over, or starting out. And the only missing ingredient to your incredible success story in the future is a new and self-imposed discipline that will make you try harder and work more intensely than you ever thought you could.

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The most valuable form of discipline is the one that you impose upon yourself. Don’t wait for things to deteriorate so drastically that someone else must impose discipline in your life. Wouldn’t that be tragic? How could you possibly explain the fact that someone else thought more of you than you thought of yourself? That they forced you to get up early and get out into the marketplace when you would have been content to let success go to someone else who cared more about themselves.

Your life, my life, the life of each one of us is going to serve as either a warning or an example. A warning of the consequences of neglect, self-pity, lack of direction and ambition… or an example of talent put to use, of discipline self-imposed, and of objectives clearly perceived and intensely pursued.

If you want to read more of Jim Rohn …. www.JimRohn.com

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Not Dealing With Aggressive People

Life Would Be Easy… If It Weren’t for AGGRESSIVE People by Connie Podesta

The aggressive personality views life from a win/lose perspective, and they create oppositional relationships. Interactions with them become struggles for control of our personality and our life. Their weapons of choice are hurt and anger; their strategy is to make you feel bad; and their outcome is for you to change your mind, your attitude or your behavior. But you always have a choice—and options!

frustrated personDealing with the Aggressive Person
The most important thing to remember in any personality conflict is that we cannot change anyone else. However, we can choose to change ourselves and how we react to others’ attempts to manipulate us.

When faced with aggressive behavior, we have two possible responses. First, we can assert ourselves, confront the attack (which means we avoid reacting to the emotions and sensations their tactics trigger in us), and neutralize the onslaught. This is the assertive choice.

Second, we can allow ourselves to be drawn in and manipulated and respond by using one of three non-assertive communication styles. We can give in to the attack and avoid the issue at hand (passive); we can resort to imitating the difficult behavior by being manipulative right back (aggressive); or we can attempt to get even and teach them a lesson (passive-aggressive).


As long as a difficult person is allowed to behave in an inappropriate or unacceptable way, and they are rewarded for this behavior by getting their needs met, they will have no incentive to change. Assertive negative feedback works!

Difficult people do not respect people who allow them to get away with their manipulations; therefore, we must give the difficult person timely feedback (assertive negative) that their behavior is not acceptable. Unfortunately, many people try to avoid confrontation because they believe a confrontation will simply escalate the already tense situation, or they believe any type of confrontation or negative feedback will not coincide with their image of a “nice person.”

Assertive negative means you must let the other person know as soon as possible that their action, tone or behavior is not acceptable to you. It sounds mature and grown-up, functional and healthy, professional, in-control and confident; it can even sound caring and comforting.

For example, an aggressive negative response might sound like: “You are so lazy and irresponsible. How many times do I have to tell you to clean up your room?” Or “Oh fine. That’s a great idea. I’m sure our clients will really enjoy waiting two extra days for their order.” Or “I’m sick of dealing with you! I’ve had it!”

A more powerful, effective assertive negative response for each follows: “Son, I need you to clean your room now. I know you’ve had a lot going on after school, and it’s easy to get distracted, but this needs to be your No. 1 priority.” Or “I’m concerned that the new shipping schedule will cause a delay in getting our clients their orders on time. What can we do to make sure this doesn’t happen?” Or “I’m frustrated and tired right now, and I’m sure you are too, so we’re getting nowhere with this discussion. Let’s talk again later.”

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Three important things changed:

  • The other person has been told that we have noticed their behavior and we feel it is not acceptable, appropriate or necessary.
  • There were no insults, put-downs, sarcastic statements or threats used.
  • We did not ignore, reward, accept or emulate their negative behavior.

Watch Out for Detours
The bottom line is that most difficult people are cowards. They really do not want to deal with anyone they think might see through the tears and threats and assertively take them on face to face. But aggressive people do want control. They want to get their needs met and have been taught by the rest of us that manipulation using hurt and anger usually works.

Assertiveness requires you to think about what you need to say, how you want to say it, and to stick to the subject—your subject, not theirs. Be aware of detours and refuse to take them. You do not need to make excuses, defend yourself or apologize for stating your needs firmly with confidence and taking back control of your life!

 

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